Sex Matters: How Modern Feminism Lost Touch with Science, Love, and Common Sense

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Sex Matters: How Modern Feminism Lost Touch with Science, Love, and Common Sense

琽 Text Sex Matters: How Modern Feminism Lost Touch with Science, Love, and Common Sense download Ѹ Kindle Ebook By Mona Charen ऒ Chapter 1The Feminist MistakeIf ever wife was happy in a man, Compare with me, ye women, if you can.I prize thy love than whole mines of gold,Or all the riches that the East doth hold. Anne Bradstreet 16121672 , To My Dear and Loving HusbandRelations between the sexes are ailing in our time Hundreds of prominent men in fields from entertainment to sports to business to politics have been credibly accused of gross sexual harassment and other forms of boorishness The louts span the political spectrum, from Bill OReilly and Roger Ailes on the right, to Al Franken and John Conyers Jr on the left And the toll continues to mount.Young people hardly date much, but they feel pressured into hooking up Some millennials are giving up on sex altogether Eighteen year old Noah Patterson, a virgin, told the Washington Post that he preferred online porn to having a girlfriend For an average date, youre going to spend at least two hours, and in that two hours I wont be doing something I enjoy.1Teenagers and even some preteens sext one another, and sometimes find themselves facing child pornography charges.2 The percentage of adults who have never been married is at a historic high 30 percent , and fewer than one third of millennials say that having a successful marriage is one of the most important things in life.3 While many women proclaim themselves single by choice, others express frustration with the lack of marriageable men In 2011, Kate Bolick described the proliferation of commitment phobic men, which she believed had created a new dating gap Marriage minded women, she wrote, are increasingly confronted with either deadbeats or players.4 The so called mens rights movement thrives online, encouraging men to see themselves as victims of the sex wars and to luxuriate in misogyny.The most talked about cultural products of the past few years only occasionally offer models of nobility or even basic integrity between men and women They range from rampant adultery Madmen to incest and sex slavery Game of Thrones In HBOs Girls, the protagonists boyfriend in the first few episodes is really not a boyfriend at all but a sex partner and not a very nice one at that Hannah drops by Adams apartment and is ordered to remove her clothes, to get on all fours, to stop talking, and to perform a variety of sex acts while he indulges the fantasy that she is a child with a Cabbage Patch lunchbox.How did we become so estranged and so strange How did love and sex become battlegrounds where feminists decry rape culture while the manosphere hurls vicious insults at women in general Modern feminism, I submit, must take at least some of the blame.Feminism deserves credit for helping women get the vote, securing equal pay, and obtaining full civil and political rights Those are unmixed blessings No reasonable person questions whether women should be treated as full legal equals to men that is beyond debate But did that full equality require the denigration of the nuclear family Did it require the eager embrace of a sexual revolution that would dismantle the traditions of modesty, courtship, and fidelity that have protected women for centuries Was it essential to declare a war between the sexes, and to deem men the enemy of women Was it necessary to seed our culture with bitterness that continues to this day Lets start at the beginning It is moving to read the pleas for womens equality from Mary Wollstonecraft, the eighteenth century protofeminist, who argued that women could be rational creatures and deserved to be educated In A Vindication of the Rights of Women 1792 , Wollstonecraft wrote, Let woman share the rights, and she will emulate the virtues of man for she must grow perfect when emancipated.5The great British philosopher John Stuart Mill declared in the 1869 that the legal subordination of one sex to the other is wrong itself, and is now one of the chief obstacles to human improvement and it ought to be replaced by a principle of perfect equality that doesnt allow any power or privilege on one side or disability on the other.6In his treatise The Subjection of Women 1869 , Mill scoffed at the notion that women were less intelligent than men a widely held view at the time and rebutted those who protested that women had achieved little in the arts and sciences Mill was scornful Our best novelists have mostly been women, he wrote, mentioning in particular Madame de Stal and George Sand Of the latter, he wrote that it would be impossible to find a finer specimen of purely artistic excellence than the prose of Madame Sand, whose style acts on the nervous system like a symphony of Haydn or Mozart.7It was fully understandable that women had not achieved excellence in other fields, Mill noted, since they were denied the education men received, and he added that women had original ideas all the time but, lacking the wherewithal to publish or publicly demonstrate their insights, often passed along these ideas to husbands or other male relatives.8 Mill freely acknowledged that a very large proportion indeed of his ideas originated with the women in his life.He also explained womens comparatively less prodigious production of original works of art by noting that very few women have time for them.Even when the superintending of a household isnt laborious in other ways, its a very heavy burden on the thoughts it requires incessant vigilance, an eye that catches every detail, and it constantly presents inescapable problems to be solved.9 Bravo, Mr Mill Too few men appreciate this core female competency.In the intervening centuries, womens roles have changed dramatically In our own time, weve been encouraged to believe that womens history is one long tale of exploitation and denigration, oppressions that lifted only when feminism arrived to free us But this narrative always seemed forced to me Of course, some men have treated some women badly throughout human history But declaring that all women have been oppressed by all men seems overly simplistic Relations between the sexes, starting in families, are too complex to reduce to oppressors and victims.The First Wave Youve Never Heard OfFeminisms first wave is usually dated to the late nineteenth centurys suffrage movement, though some people agitated for equal rights before then The suffragists are now included in the feminist pantheon On the evening before the 2016 presidential election, feminists gathered at Susan B Anthonys grave, assuming that Hillary Clinton would become the first woman elected president Anthony has been honored on the U.S currency, and Elizabeth Cady Stantons home is a National Park Service site In April 2016, the Treasury Department announced that Stanton, Lucretia Mott, Sojourner Truth, and Alice Paul will be featured on the ten dollar bill to mark the one hundredth anniversary of the Nineteenth Amendment, which enfranchised women coast to coast.These women may be the ones most often cited in textbooks, but as the American Enterprise Institutes Christina Hoff Sommers has pointed out, Frances Willard and Hannah More were far influential and popular with women during the nineteenth century More 17451833 , an English novelist, poet, political reformer, and pamphleteer, championed what Sommers calls maternal feminism She didnt deny differences between the sexes but urged women to use their special abilities to improve the world Religiously inspired, she founded Sunday schools that taught poor children their ABCs, but also instilled thrift, sobriety, and piety Her novels and pamphlets excoriated the rich for their amorality, for their hedonism, and for ignoring the needs of the poor.10Frances Willard, who founded the Womans Christian Temperance Union, spoke for many women than the suffragists We look back on Prohibition as an idealistic blunder, but womens intensity about the question indicated that they were concerned about what excessive drinking was doing to families than they were about the right to vote As Sommers notes, the National American Woman Suffrage Association had only about seven thousand members, though the WCTU could boast one hundred fifty thousand The womens suffrage movement needed help from the WCTU before it could begin scoring political victories Like More, Willard embraced womens separate sphere while also believing that women had a duty to improve the world In addition to temperance, the WCTU lobbied for prison reform, child welfare, and care for the disabled.11The women reformers of that time, unlike those who would lead second wave feminism some decades later, avoided grievance mongering They saw womens issues as being linked to mens and childrens Though the temperance movement highlighted the damage excessive alcohol use did to wives and children, it also focused on husbands and sons who drank.Second wave feminists, by contrast, would explicitly link womens struggles with the cause of civil rights for African Americans In 1963s The Feminine Mystique, Betty Friedan declared that What we need is a political movement, a social movement like that of blacks.12In a 1969 piece for New York magazine titled After Black Power, Womens Liberation, Gloria Steinem wrote, Finally, women recognized their essential second classness, forming womens caucuses inside the Movement in much the same way Black Power groups had done And once together , they made a lot of discoveries that they shared problems with women of different classes, for instance, than they did with men of their own.13This is overwrought, particularly when compared to the approach taken by the women leaders of the first wave The womens suffrage movement did share roots with the movement for abolition Lucretia Mott, Elizabeth Cady Stanton, Susan B Anthony, Angelina Emily Grimk, and Sarah Moore Grimk were prominent abolitionists who also campaigned for womens rights But suggesting that the condition of women could be compared to that of black slaves or black citizens is a huge leap.It has become fashionable for various interest groups to hijack the vocabulary and moral standing of the civil rights movement Women, Latinos, the handicapped, homosexuals, transgender individuals all have sought to compare their situations with that of blacks But no group in American history has suffered the kind of dehumanization, persecution, exclusion, terror, and discrimination that blacks were subjected to for than three hundred years.Even leaving aside slavery, with its incalculable suffering, African Americans were the victims of thousands of lynchings, systematic torture, discrimination, and abuse In the years between 1883 and 1927, than three thousand blacks were lynched.14 As historians Stephan and Abigail Thernstrom note, these crimes were designed to terrorize all African Americans They were not usually the furtive work of masked men wearing sheets, as is sometimes thought Rather they were highly public events the perpetrators were not only known to the community but sometimes even posed for before and after photographs in the local paper first with their victim and then with their victims corpse 15Now consider how Steinem described the oppression of women in her 1969 article M ore backstage work, mimeographing, secondary role playing around the revolutionary cells and apartment communes And to be honest, reluctance to leave the secondary role and lose male approval.16Steinem believed women deserved a revolution because subtler, psychological punishments for stepping out of womens traditional service roles were considerable Being called unfeminine, a bad mother, a castrating bitch, to name a traditional few 17Or, as one New York woman complained during a consciousness raising session in 1969, I have to keep reminding myself that theres nothing wrong with body hair, and no reason for one sex to scrape a razor over their legs.18Comparing womens plight to what blacks experienced trivialized the true suffering of African Americans, yet feminist influenced textbooks increasingly stressed this, maintaining that women have been ignored by a patriarchal, man centered history One widely used womens studies textbook argued for radical reconceptualizations that would overcome the bias that has been built into what has come to be known as knowledge Another insisted that traditional systems of knowledge have ignored women altogether or frequently portrayed them in stereotypical or demeaning ways.19I was educated before this victim narrative took hold, and accordingly, I learned that American history and world history, for that matter is brimming with stories of women who were brilliant, brave, righteous, inventive, and worthy of emulation as well as treacherous, greedy, cruel, lazy, and insipid I could never escape the suspicion that women were human beings, with all the virtues and vices of the human condition.But cringing victims bent under the weight of patriarchy I dont think so.American women have been at the forefront of many of our countrys most momentous reform movements Anne Hutchinson, a charismatic preacher and mother of fifteen , provoked a schism among Puritans in seventeenth century Boston Harriet Beecher Stowe gave abolitionism its greatest weapon in Uncle Toms Cabin, while Harriet Tubman helped to run the Underground Railroad As Ive noted, the temperance movement and Prohibition were primarily the work of the Womans Christian Temperance Union, led by Frances Willard Dorothea Dix successfully campaigned to reform the treatment of the mentally ill Mother Jones was an influential labor activist Mary Baker Eddy founded the Christian Science church, and Ida Tarbell was a crusading Progressive Era journalist Jane Addams was a pioneer of urban reform Rosa Parks helped ignite the struggle for civil rights, and Dorothy Day was a leader of the Catholic Worker Movement Additionally, millions upon millions of unsung women married, bore children without anesthesia until quite recently , kept households running, ran businesses, took in boarders, and were the anchors of stable and fulfilling family lives.And every one of the male oppressors who are said to be womens enemies had a mother, usually a wife, and often sisters and daughters and cousins and aunts and nieces and friends Those women sometimes made the lives of their men miserable, but often they made life worth living.1 Tara Bahrampour, There really isnt anything magical about it Why More Millennials Are Avoiding Sex, Washington Post, Aug 2, 2016.2 Brian Alseth, Sexting and the Law Press Send to Turn Teenagers into Registered Sex Offenders, ACLU Washington, Sept 24, 2010, aclu blog sexting and law press send turn teenagers registered sex offenders.3 Stephanie Hanes, Singles Nation Why So Many Americans Are Unmarried, Christian Science Monitor, June 14, 2015, USA Society 2015 0614 Singles nation Why so many Americans are unmarried.4 Kate Bolick, All the Single Ladies, The Atlantic, Nov 2011.5 Mary Wollstonecraft, A Vindication of the Rights of Women CITY PUBLISHER, YEAR , 103.6 John Stuart Mill, The Subjugation of Women, 1869, assets pdfs mill1869.pdf.7 Ibid., 41.8 Ibid., 42.9 Ibid., 44.10 Christina Hoff Sommers, Freedom Feminism Its Surprising History and Why It Matters Today Washington, DC AEI Press, 2013 , 20.11 Ibid., 28.12 Betty Friedan, The Feminine Mystique New York W W Norton, 1963 , 461.13 Gloria Steinem, After Black Power, Womens Liberation, New York magazine, April 4, 1969.14 Abigail and Stephan Thernstrom, America in Black and White One Nation, Indivisible New York Simon and Schuster, 1997 , 44.15 Ibid., 45.16 Steinem, After Black Power, Womens Liberation.17 Ibid.18 Sara Davidson, An Oppressed Majority Demands Its Rights, Life, Dec 12, 1969.19 Quoted in Christine Stolba, Lying in a Room of Ones Own Arlington, VA Independent Womens Forum, 2002 , 16.Mona Charen has written a book that matters Honest, fearless, and insightful, it s a polemic that s than a polemic It s a thought provoking attempt to induce those willing to liberate themselves from contemporary pieties to think anew about the family, about equality, and about the nature of men and women William Kristol, editor at large, The Weekly Standard The solution to the boorish male behavior that has given rise to the MeToo movement is not feminism, but less, as Mona Charen reveals in her compelling expose of feminisms war on reality Gender studies departments will not issue trigger warnings about this book, they will try to ban it entirelywhich is why the rest of us should read this lucid analysis of how our society has gone dangerously off track in ordering the relations between the sexes Heather MacDonald, Thomas W Smith fellow at the Manhattan Institute and author of The War on Cops An honest book on a crucial subject by a wonderful writer Her book will be widely praised and widely attacked Even the attackers, somewhere within themselves, will know its true This is a book that deals in reality Jay Nordlinger, senior editor, National Review Sex Matters is a cultural milestone Mona Charen dissolves decades of fallacies in the acid of honesty I found this book thrilling George Gilder, author of Life After Google and Men andMarriage I have long regarded Mona Charen as a national treasure Sex Matters reinforces me in that judgment The brilliance, wisdom, and courage on display in the book are breathtaking Here is an author who boldly speaks moral truth to cultural power Robert P George, McCormick Professor of Jurisprudence, Princeton University One of the greatest lies told to my generation is not only that we can do it all, but that we should as well American mothers are pushed to a breaking point trying to do everything at work and be Pinterest perfect at home Sex Matters is essential reading for any woman looking to see through the fiction that women are not only the same as men, but that they should want to be as well Bethany Mandel, stay at home mother and editor at RicochetAn excellent issue by issue overview of conservative thinking on, well, sex matters from the wage gap, to abortion, to the rise of unwed childbearing, to the mommy wars, to the hookup culture and alleged rape crisis on 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